Thanks guys,
It worked !! So I tried removing ECU pins using tiny screw drivers as dental picks
Just to post some pictures for peoples coming here.
ECU Pins from the harness :
1) Unlock pins which are retained by white locker
2) I inserted the dental pick or tiny screw driver in the hole above the ECU pin I wanted to depin. Unfortunately I tried to make a movement in "down" direction while I pulled out the pin, but the good movement is to make UP direction... So I broke the little plastic clip inside the connector. This is not a problem because when I repin it, it will be locked into position using the white plastic locker.
Now let's depin the brown connector in the engine bay
1) With pliers I carefully removed the white plastic locker, the red seal will be removed as well.
This is what you have now
2) I used my tiny screw driver as dental pick again to depin. I instered the screw driver just above the pin and pull out the wire
Now I will be able to modify my OEM harness to add wires for AVCS and other stuffs without cutting/splicing the OEM one on the car. I will use a spare harness as donor.